things I wish I knew in my twenties 🤍 now that I’m 35, divorced and starting over as a single mom 1. Delusion is not a bad thing ✨ standards are not arrogance. We’re taught as women to be humble, quiet, soft. Nobody told me it was okay to want more, expect more, and believe I was worthy of more. That’s not being full of yourself. That’s called knowing your worth. 2. Stop rushing the timeline. I spent my twenties trying to have everything figured out 💕the relationship, the family, the life. Nobody told me that rushing into the wrong things just means starting over later anyway. There is no deadline on your life. 3. Your thirties will give you back everything your twenties took. I had no idea that this was the decade I’d finally start reclaiming myself. My voice, my standards, my peace. If I knew my thirties were going to feel like this, I would have worried so much less back then. 4. When someone shows you who they are 😒 believe them the first time. Not the fifth. Not after the conversation. The first time. A little disrespect early is a preview, not a phase. 5. Starting over is not behind 👏🏼 it’s brave. Especially when you have kids watching you. You are showing them exactly what it looks like to choose yourself. That matters more than staying in the wrong thing. 6. Staying for the wrong reasons is still leaving, just slower. Staying because of the kids, because of fear, because of what people will think 😢 it costs you more in the long run than just leaving would have. You still end up in the same place, just years later. 7. You are allowed to not have it all together and still show up. I thought I had to be healed before I could move forward. You don’t. You can be mid breakdown and still be building something. 8. What you tolerate in your twenties becomes your normal. The way people spoke to you, treated you, made you feel. You got used to it without realizing it. Raising your standards later feels uncomfortable because your baseline was set too low. That’s not your fault. But it is yours to fix now. Using @morphebrushes cheek thrills in poolside spritz 🧡 #startingover #divorcedmom #thingsiwishtknew #thirtyflirtyandthriving #singlemomlife